But same goes with meeting anyone you'll find attractive in pretty much any situation. We live in an age of abbreviated words and phrases, mostly due to the wonderful world of the internet, which is still something "new", I don't care how many of you kids grew up with it. Anyway, no place on earth exemplifies this culture of abbreviation more than the Craigslist personals section, or the "Casual Encounters" section. There are several CL shorthand terms, but I'd say these are some of the essentials.
DDF means "drug and disease free" this is big in M4M encounters. Oh, M4M is Men for Men btw. You do know what btw is though right?? After you know the lingo it's really just about making a post , including an image and waiting for fish to bite. Having a picture on there is really important, as a lot of people filter out the submissions without photos. Much dumber people than you and I have figured out how to do this, so I'm going to focus on how not to make horrible mistakes while using this Starting with the people to avoid at all costs PNP , in craigslist parlance, stands for "party 'n play" which stands for sex while high on drugs.
While PNP could technically refer to marijuana, the average stoner will usually just say " Friendly" instead. And as twitchy and annoying as they can be For someone like me who hates quickies, I suppose that can come in handy. But that kind of weirdly numb stamina can also be detrimental. Also, anyone looking for "Tina" or wanting to party with "Tina" -that's just another word for meth. Whenever you see an ad on craigslist advertising someone looking for "generous men" or just "gen," it can only mean one thing: The person placing the ad is a prostitute, and "generous" is just thinly veiled code for "give me money to let you do funny stuff to me".
She didn't communicate well, so I had a hard time finding what she liked. I mean, everyone has their own thing. I went down on her and let me tell you, it was so fucking nasty. I wretched two times but I don't think she noticed. I don't think she cleaned it well, and she shaved it so my mouth and pussy hurt afterward.
I have a bigger appreciation for natural hair now. Anyway, in the end neither of us finished: I really wish we never did anything, and just kissed, cuddled, and talked. I don't know if that would have satisfied her, but it would me. Her lips were so fucking soft, and she was so beautiful. I could just look into her eyes and brush back her hair all day.
I feel really awkward about it now. It was pretty gross. Finger her first before going down, then lean in for a kiss and smell your fingers, that will give you a good indication of the situation down there.
Don't make it obvious, it works best in the dark. Sorry she wasn't clean - I'd do like the other person said, do the subtle sniff and if it's iffy then suggesting a quick shower together is a good fix. Received a reply from the same girl on two different posts. Decided it was worth a shot, and it certainly was. Sucked me off up until the day she got married, and will no longer speak to me now.
I guess nobody told either of you that it's still considered cheating when you're engaged to be married To be perfectly honest, we're getting married on Friday.
I did it a few times. One of the guys I hooked up with for almost a year. Another a few months. Also where I met my bf.
We have been dating for 5 years. I never got a reply from anyone that wasn't a bot wanting me to sign up for some sketchy site. I'm sure many horny dudes have received a reply with this pic only to have their hopes dashed: I thought it would be fun to give it a shot, and it was pretty miserable. I figured it would be pretty easy being a woman looking for men. Half the replies I got were bots, and of the humans, most just wanted more pictures or disappeared when I mentioned actually meeting.
Out of the hundred and fifty or so emails I got in one day, after 48 hours I only had two guys who seemed even remotely serious, one of whom refused to send me any pictures or anything so I had to bail.
When I met up with the other guy at a fast food place he was clearly on drugs, looked like meth or a lot of cocaine. Nothing but crazies, in the sense of literally mentally ill. But I'm crazy too so it mostly works out. I have used craigslist on average once a month for 6 years for sex. I am a good looking 25 year old dude. Started when i was 19, I said i was 22, had sex with a really sexy 44 year old woman.
She was cool and the sex was great. Then i had sex with a student from a local college, and again it was amazing. She was the first asian girl i had ever been with and was absolutely gorgeous. For about a year after that I used it multiple times a week, I live in a city and there is a ton of people using it. Another aspect is it allows you to find people who have similar kinks as you easier than fetlife or any similar site.
I have an absolute thing for "t-girls" and have great luck on there, have even dated one after meeting has happened with a natural girl as well. Those were the only times I was disappointed, every once in a while you get fake pictures and a dude in a wig, which is creepy but not scary.
No one has ever been scary or dangerous, although the act of all this obviously is. I must have lucked out never getting majorly sick or hurt by anyone. One of my first encounters was with an alleged MMA fighter who claimed that having a lot of sex the night before was the best way he could shake off pre fight jitters.
Holy shit we fucked for like 2 hours the first time and at least 2 maybe more the second time. He was really interesting and down to earth.
We talked about how beautiful life can be and how important it is to be open to life's experiences. He was some kind of black middle eastern I don't know, I'm white like rice. We talked a lot about how we wished more people were of the mindset that we are all one people, we are all gods children and there is nothing that separates us other than our own lack of trust and inability to forget our differences.
We fooled around 1 more time a few weeks later. He was the first man in my life to give me an orgasm every time we hooked up, he still is the only person I have genuinely simultaneously climaxed with. I met another guy. We dated for two years He was a control freak, extremely insecure and kind of a pedophile. He paid my rent though, but I have legitimate ptsd from that relationship.
Then I met another guy who I really really liked as a person, the sex was pretty good but he was pretty premature and never once made me come. Not the end of the world but things very nearly became serious until he told me because of how we met, he could never fully trust me There where many other men.
They were all most all shitty people, total fucking liars, terrible lays, or just flat out idiots. Never had a terrible experience. Only caught an std once and it was very curable. I will say though that craigslist has ruined a handful of potentially very fulfilling relationships and I do not recommend hooking up to anyone. I got way lucky. I could have gotten HIV or been murdered. I have had some stalkers though. Thankfully I think I've shaken them off by changing my name and phone number.
I have had so;me stalkers though. Thankfully I think I've shaken them off b y changing my name and number. The name change was not due to the stalker situation, but afterward strange men no longer casually greeted me by my full legal name at the supermarket so that was nice. Makes me feel like possible details are missing from stories.
But the stories are great none the less. Almost did it once because an old friend of mine did it, but immediately was deterred after hearing more of his stories of craigslist. Will never use it because of him. Not just because I'm in a relationship, but because the people are either crazy, gross, or a mixture of the two. Couples, fat girls, older women, trannies, gang bangs and glory holes I've tried it all Please keep in mind that the OP of this thread has chosen to mark this post with the [Serious] replies only tag, therefore any replies that are jokes, puns, off-topic, or are otherwise non-contributory will be removed.
Become a Redditor and subscribe to one of thousands of communities. Want to add to the discussion? I love the show, but can't remember the episode. I would love to see it. The perp used rat traps! I don't like typing on my phone so these will be brief First girl was the first and only black girl I ever slept with. Give us the rest of the stories!
Here's the next one since at least one of you is interested. Surprised I didn't get murdered with how often I did it. You can appreciate the good times cause of those bad times. Guess some folks just don't have anything better to do with their time.
I don't know what the big deal is. Last Thursday was our 6 month dating anniversary. I'm a lucky man. She was a little overweight, but had great tits and was extremely eager to please. I have never met another cocksucker like her. Just absolutely lived for my cum. Thankfully I think I've shaken them off b y changing my name and number Wow I also block people who send me dick pic's.
What is your question? Also both posts got deleted because I didn't show off my candy or face. Wish more people could. Drives my gf crazy that i can so completely not care....
This is helpful when they use different come-ons to attract response. Either of which are probably not what any guy is looking to engage with. This is part and parcel of the scams here, the photos can be used to regenerate your identity or simply the person is collecting photos because that's their hobby. Again, engaging with them is not going to produce a positive result. Engaging with these people seems very counter productive at best and dangerous at the worse. Nice to look at, but overwhelmingly not actual photos of a woman you are going to engage with.
My advice to guys on this site is to guard your identity with every click. Every time you send a photo of yourself or your phone number or your real email address, think about this: Would you want that phone number used as tool to recreate your identity?
Do you want some hacker busting in to your email account? Seems to me we need the "real" women here to implement a special code to use in their ads, something that we can simply use in search to help. We can make this a safer environment, if we all work together! I have used it in the past and will just not send phone info I am busy, give me yours and I will call you in a few or photo I have decoy pics and will not send it to the CL address, onlly to a real address. I've messed with men posting an ad as well, to see what's out there in terms of competition.
I was 'impressed' at how little info men want to give, bad pics, short emails, they want to call you, they can not 'hosts' huh? So yes, men are protecting themselves but in a slightly different way than what you and I would consider. CL is bottom feeding of dating, but it works well for specific fetishes. I have standard email replies written up so i can communicate the first 3 emails without much effort and time. CL does work, you need to be careful and invest some upfront time.
All of this should begin to stand out to anyone who's spent a handful of nights or more exploring casual encounters. A couple things that weren't mentioned that should be are;. Create an entirely new email for your CL late night freak business. This keeps your actual email clean and protected. As far as the "real" women implementing a new code.. The real code is to describe something, some place about the city you're advertising in that only a local who's lived there would know.
I list something to the effect of "The mayfair district is home to many folks who live an alternative lifestyle. The north mall sees it's share of snobs. This should help you to validate my authenticity as a real and local person" Something everyone local can relate to and recognize, landmarks or common opinions of the towns people "The causeway maintenance is a joke right now, when is this project going to be completed?
I have places to get to! I sometimes make people do something specific just because I wrote a lot of text and want to make sure they read the whole ad.
Then again, maybe they are law enforcement. Amidst all those failures, I had one near-success. A woman wrote in response to my sweet "cuddling first" ad saying she was in town for only a couple of months, and that she was frustrated she couldn't find a relationship.
When she sent her pictures, she looked plain but attractive. We exchanged a couple of e-mails over the course of two hours, tossing back and forth lists of interests and the like. She made it clear that she wanted to meet up, and while she talked about starting slow, it was clear that it would indeed be a casual encounter.
But when I suggested a time to meet — the last message from me before I would reveal myself and back out — there was no reply. At least, not yet. The next day, she e-mailed me saying she was deeply apologetic and that she'd fallen asleep. She said she'd like to meet up sometime.
So yes, there are women on Craigslist. Well, at least one! You've probably guessed by now that the experiences for heterosexual men and women on Craigslist's casual encounters are quite different. I observed that for every ad a woman posts, there are at least 20 from men.
If nothing else, that imbalance ought to alter the experience. To get the female perspective, I did two things: I posted a fake ad as a woman to see what kinds of responses I would get, and I interviewed two women who have had success hooking up on casual encounters in the past. As for potential suitors, I asked only that they supply a photo and "be attractive and not creepy.
There was a five minute delay before my ad appeared, then I started receiving about one response per minute.
Most of them were careful to say "I don't do this often. Some sent pictures of themselves naked along with the word "Hi. There were a lot of expressions of sympathy over my fake breakup. I was hearing from men of all types, and it seemed I had my pick of the litter.
After about thirty minutes, though, my post was flagged for removal. I thought I'd made it look legit, but as we learned earlier, folks have good reason to be hawkish about scammers.
After the end of my test run with Craigslist casual encounters, I decided to get more insight into the female experience with the site by interviewing two women who said they had successes meeting up with men on Casual Encounters. Their problem was the opposite of mine. They had too many options to pick from, but they both dealt with the numerous choices in the same way. Both women ultimately responded to men who they felt put effort into writing long, personal messages as opposed to quick notes.
Multiple paragraphs of insightful and relatable prose won out — but only after the initial test of physical appearance. Both said they immediately eliminated men who opened with pictures of genitalia — a very common practice. However, looks were important. One of the women I interviewed said she once had a crush on a client at her job, but couldn't make a move without compromising her professionalism.
However, she was looking through Casual Encounters and saw an ad from a man, and she recognized his writing style — it was her old client! She sent him a message to see if it was him, asking a question only he would be able to answer. He proved his identity and they ended up hooking up. One of the women said she would go to Casual Encounters when she was looking for a very specific sexual experience — something you can't always count on from a one night stand that starts at a club or bar.
The other said her reasons could be summed up as "curiosity, boredom, and convenience. The trick is to keep an open mind and not have any real expectations. At the very least, it's mildly entertaining.
After all this exploration, I'll say that Craigslist casual encounters is a place where people go to find very specific things from each other that they might not be able to conveniently locate in the real world. Some of those things are very alternative. It's a last, best hope for some people who are looking to make a personal connection, but it's full of spam, unwanted attention, crime, and, well You might not find what you're looking for, but you're sure to find something interesting regardless.
Image courtesy of iStockphoto , nights , geotrac. Samuel Axon is a digital content producer in New York City. He has worked as an editor at Engadget, Mashable and the Joystiq network, and currently leads content strategy as Editorial Director at Sprout Social. We're using cookies to improve your experience. Click Here to find out more.
Entertainment Like Follow Follow. The Experiment I began with a listing announcing myself to the women of my city. Barking Up the Wrong Tree All the responses I got from real people on my first day weren't from women — they were from men.
But where were they? I was only getting messages from gay or bisexual men! An Army of Scammers Over the next couple of days, I actually received a lot of posts from women.