Michelle Middlemiss, who does not receive YAP services, learned about Pittverse Magazine by word of mouth and wanted to be a part of it. The group welcomed her as a writer and member of their creative community. Waivers allow funding to provide supports and services for people closer to home in their own communities.
Michelle was thrilled when Mr. Torisky agreed to have her interview him for a Pittverse article that will be published later this year. As the Pittverse community grows in size, friendships are growing too. She was raised in a New Orleans public housing development where hope for the future easily dimmed. No matter where they live, June sees kids as unique individuals with potential to succeed.
There may be bumps in the road, but June inspires hope and determination. Jonathan, age 17, was once a very angry young man. Now, 18 months later, he has an impressive list of accomplishments that include giving back to his Savannah, GA community and working hard on his educational and employment goals.
He has also learned to manage the uncontrollable anger that once drove him in negative directions. LaVeisha and her team remain in touch with the family. Jonathan and his mother agree that controlling his anger was a key benefit of his YAP involvement. He is no longer on Probation.
Jonathan now attends the high school where he was once banned from campus due to behavioral issues. He has learned to redirect the emotional energy that was once consumed by his anger. Today, this young man who loves animals, aquariums and music is moving forward in peaceful and productive ways.
The Bloods, Crips and Latin Kings were warring and had taken over whole residential blocks and neighborhoods. The Department focused our services in the Poly Stop Six Community, the poorest neighborhood and highest crime area.
YAP also provides services to children and youth whose emotional and behavioral needs put them at risk of out of home placement through the state Youth Empowerment Services YES Waiver, and works with students at risk of school dropout and failure in partnership with the Fort Worth Independent School District. Since , Santa Fe Youth Services has built an excellent reputation for providing adolescent drug treatment as well as a number of prevention and early intervention evidence-based programs to Tarrant County youth and their families.
Partnering with schools, community agencies and Tarrant County Juvenile Services, Santa Fe Youth Services currently provides programs for more than 4, youth and families a year. We are proud to have Santa Fe Youth Services as an official division of YAP, and welcome them into our YAP family with the confidence that together, we will broaden and deepen our collective impact on children and families in the community.
Carla joined YAP in No matter how hectic her schedule, she manages quality time with her husband Scott, their children and two dogs, one of which has special needs. Is having a pre-packaged, microwaved meal for dinner a really big deal? Not unless fear and uncertainty make that your only choice every day of the week.
What happened next made a huge difference in her independence and enjoyment of life. Melissa and her YAP team set to work on cooking, safety and other important independent living goals. The team reviewed appliance safety with Melissa and walked her through each step-by-step process for making a variety of simple foods in the oven and on the stove top. Together, Melissa and the team also identified new food interests. After several months of encouragement and incremental gains in confidence, Melissa was safely using the oven to prepare simple meals and snacks.
For Melissa and for all of us, voice and choice—beginning with basics like the food we eat-- are essential to quality of life. In partnership with her YAP team, Melissa developed her voice while achieving goals to maximize her independence. She has also learned the joy of sharing with others.
Sherri and the YAP team will greatly miss the man they describe as "truly genuine" - a man who knew families and remembered the names of YAP Advocates and kids alike. His own advocacy in securing YAP Advocates for court-involved youth had significant impact in improving the lives of youth and families.
He promoted good relationships between Probation and YAP staff, sometimes having applicants for Probation jobs touch base with YAP to learn how the program worked.
He was also instrumental in developing a referral process for the program and provided valuable insight on staff training and day-to-day operations. As Mike moves on to the next chapter of his life, he will not be forgotten.
He leaves a legacy of work dedicated to helping young people find pathways to productive, law-abiding futures. The team chose a child care facility for their first site.
An AetnaFoundation GoLocal grant supports the project. When school resumes, Felicia plans to have 3 additional gardens in 3 inner-city schools. Miriam was born in Juarez, Mexico but was raised in Denver, Colorado. From an early age, Miriam possessed passion, intelligence, discipline, perseverance, dedication, and compassion. She developed and channeled these qualities into issues that were important to her: Miriam was not only the first person in her family to go to college, but she also earned a graduate degree in Business Administration.
She has assumed a number of roles that have helped advance equitable and humane policies, unified different stakeholders together to collaborate on projects and partnerships that improve the opportunities for and quality of life for all people in her community, and supported a number of nonprofits by serving on the board, such as Rights for All People, Colorado Immigrant Rights Coalition, El Centro Humanitario Humanitarian Center for Day Laborers ; and nationally with the Alliance for a Just Society.
YAP is fortunate to have her represent us as our Colorado board member. Today, Miriam is the Director of the Denver Office of Strategic Partnerships, and is the proud caregiver of her three nieces, ages 12, 10 and 8. YAP staff are passionate and deeply committed to making a positive difference in the world. They do this not only through their work with youth and families, but also through giving back.
Staff give back in a myriad of ways, often driven by what they identify locally as an unmet need and an area of interest. For example, in communities where violence often casts a tragic shadow such as Harrisburg, PA, YAP employees host events like the recent Peace Street that bring neighborhood residents and businesses together in a peaceful setting; during the holidays, staff may donate clothing, food and gifts to families in need.
Nationally, many staff contribute to fundraisers and payroll deductions for the Tom Jeffers Endowment Fund for Continuing Education. To date, 81 scholarships have been awarded and seven more YAP scholarship applicants are waiting for the fall semester. The concept of giving back extends beyond U. For decades, YAP staff have been supporting the work of two organizations helping vulnerable youth internationally: YAP staff give of themselves emotionally, mentally and physically in their work with youth and families; yet their generous spirits go above and beyond to give more where they see a need to help others.
For this and so many reasons, we are thankful for and proud of our YAP Team. He became a volunteer program partner in He and other YAP partners that include the Foley Police Department and Toys for Tots at Christmas have given 10, pounds of food and wrapped gifts to the community.
Since then, the family has celebrated three graduations and there may be more to come. Midway through her senior year of high school, Breonna was on the verge of being kicked out of school for poor attendance and failing grades. YAP staff met with Breonna, her mother, and the school to make a plan to get Breonna back on track for graduation. Breonna graduated on time with the rest of her class.
Just a few days later, her mother received her own high school diploma. After discharge from YAP services, Breonna stayed in touch with the program. Next, she plans to enroll in business classes at a local community college to learn about the business side of running full-service hair salon.
Terron grew up in Wilmington and his life story models success for young men. He understands both the strengths and challenges of struggling neighborhoods like Hilltop, Westside and Riverside where many Ferris School youth will return. YAP works with each youth at Ferris School for approximately six weeks prior to discharge.
Staff also visit families, conduct community assessments, identify resources and ensure that each youth has a safe place to live. Ferris staff work closely with YAP to re-enroll youth in school. The program funder, Delaware Department of Children, Youth and Their Families DSCYF , wants to help youth exit the criminal justice system as quickly and successfully as possible and reduce recidivism.
Dana Newman is confident that Terron and his team will do what it takes. On one memorable day, Kathy received a message from a youth she worked with when he was just four years old. Kathy joined YAP as an Advocate in Today she supervises 25 staff and manages operations of the Morris Sussex Office. Her staff provides in-home and community-based services for at-risk youth referred by the State Division of Child Protection and Permanency and other referral sources.
Her work in bringing together siblings separated by foster care has been recognized by state government and the Human Services Commission.
Sue originally entered college hoping to be a teacher and when she interned at probation, she discovered a surprising outlet for her teaching ambitions. Too often we criticize teens and their parents for their behavior, but never take the time to consider that they have never been taught nor have they ever been expected to behave any differently. Without learning new skills to make better choices, no amount of punishment will change this. In addition to referring youth and families to YAP, Sue works to close service gaps and to ensure there are adequate community supports for youth and families involved in the juvenile justice system.
She also takes the time to listen to youth. The kids appreciated having a voice and their feedback was used to shape incentive systems in YAP Day Treatment and Juvenile Probation. Monica is also determined to give her son Tripp the stable, nurturing home that has been out of reach for most of her own life. She was age 14 when Tripp was born and his year-old father was in jail. With free daycare provided by the Teen Parent Program, she managed to finish her freshman year of high school.
The foster care system, where Monica and Tripp have lived together, is an interim step in her life plan. But that is where YAP comes in. Monica recalled that constant moving and starting over had made her stop connecting with people. Liz is also helping Monica, who has consistently been a high school honor student, pursue her goal of a college degree in social work. Nevada is a major destination for human trafficking victims including commercially sexually exploited children CSEC.
Las Vegas is home to these and thousands of other young people who are out-of-school, out-of-work and struggling to turn nightmares into positive realities.
CCYAP is bifurcated into two programs. Voy, whose court is widely viewed as a national model in addressing child trafficking issues, supports YAP as a community-based alternative to secure detention for CSEC and other youth.
They do a lot of pro bono work themselves and they also involve kids in activities that benefit their communities. You never failed to cheer me up or make me laugh. You will always be part of my heart and the memories I will cherish for the rest of my life.
Vicky has been with the Cullman County Program for about three years. Some young people, like Ramona who was adopted along with her siblings, have been involved with both systems.
The homeowner, an elderly woman, cares for her adult grandson who struggles with a disability. Their dilapidated house was nearly condemned and she did not have the means to fix it. During the project, which took place mostly from December through February , the youth learned construction skills and much more. With the assistance of a certified electrician and other knowledgeable leaders, they learned how to make a home energy efficient and up to code.
They also learned to be resourceful, utilizing community resources for supplies and they helped with post-construction clean-up. Today, the homeowner and her grandson have peace of mind, knowing that their house is safe and secure. A BBQ at the house is planned for the end of this summer to celebrate all of the hard work the community did. Kelsey Jackson co-owns very popular restaurants that have been featured on the Food Network and FYI Philadelphia, but that is just one part of his successful work.
For years, Kelsey has partnered with YAP as a supported work employer, helping young people learn that success is within their reach.
Because Kelsey believes that young people should learn all phases of restaurant work, Joe slowly worked his way through dishwasher and busser positions to a server position.
He is now employed as the lead server at Kelsey's flagship location in Atlantic City, thanks to the training and skill building he received through supported work. YAP staff believe that Kelsey inspires youth by continuing to live as a true example that hard and consistent work can eventually pay off for anyone when given an opportunity.
She was one of about called for interviews and one of the 30 people hired at that time. The team is continually working to develop job opportunities for young people like Megan who just need a chance.
The West Baltimore neighborhood of Sandtown-Winchester has struck national attention recently due to protests and outrage sparked by the death of Freddie Gray.
It is clear that this neighborhood is struggling in many ways; yet even so, young people in YAP's program and other residents both young and old are working peacefully together to make their voices heard and to affect positive change. We are proud of our Baltimore YAP family, especially our youth leaders and we stand in solidarity with them as they work in collaboration with community and city leaders to achieve peace and justice.
YAP not only recruits staff who live in the same neighborhoods and communities as the individuals we serve; we further recruit individuals who share our core beliefs and values about what it takes to help individuals realize their goals. Staff need to be flexible, strengths-based, creative, and committed to our families. Mario provides services to Mark, a year-old with a developmental disability.
Four mornings a week, Mario arrives at 6am to assist with getting Mark ready for the day and transports him to his jobs at Goodwill and Piedmont skills workshop. Teens learn relaxation techniques, stress relief, impulse control, and how to access a greater sense of peace. The kids enjoy practicing the poses, being creative and incorporating the benefits of yoga into their daily life. Through movement and art, the Young Yogi program offers a sense of community and gives youth a tool instrumental to anger management and peaceful conflict-resolution, mindfulness to doing better in school, higher test scores and a greater sense of self-esteem.
Further, The Young Yogi Program gives YAP teens and alumni an opportunity to intern at their youth yoga camps, where they can discover their gifts and develop leadership skills in a positive environment. A team of adults with Autism who receive services in Allegheny County, PA are producing their own quarterly newsletter.
The Pittverse, as it is called, was borne out of putting YAP principles into practice: When Program Director Brian Kluchurosky presented the idea of a newsletter to some of the program's participants, four of them took ownership, brainstorming ideas that resulted in the naming of the newsletter, its logo and its content. The group has grown to include eight active contributors of opinion pieces, restaurant reviews, artwork and other wide-ranging topics.
To date, the newsletter has provided contributors with the opportunity to create something meaningful using their "voice" that is shared with the community. Now, with a recent grant from the Edith L. Trees Charitable Trust, contributors will also receive compensation for their work on the publication. Even in rural communities, access to fresh and nutritious food for some families can be challenging. Two YAP programs in Alabama are building from the community's natural strengths and resources to maintain community gardens as a means to make nutritious food more accessible to families while teaching YAP youth and families how to grow and harvest their own food.
Cullman County is the leading agricultural county in the state with a deep heritage in farming, but YAP staff saw families in their community in need of affordable, nutritious food. YAP engaged program youth in planting a community garden to provide fresh produce to their own families, as well as to neighbors and a local domestic violence shelter. By helping to plant and maintain the garden, youth and families learn practical skills that can translate to their own personal home gardens, or lead to local employment opportunities.
I just laughed when I read it. I thought, What does that mean? I didn't understand it! It was like, "Here are two things you'd hate to be. So what did happen in the park and the bathroom? The truth is it was just like just about any other entrapment case you ever heard of. I walked into the bathroom, and literally 30 seconds later someone else walked into the bathroom.
As I was leaving the bathroom, I saw this guy who was basically masturbating in front of me. It was the usual thing, a good-looking guy. I certainly didn't look at him and think, Oh, that must be a cop. And actually, nothing happened at all other than me returning the favor in kind from about eight feet away.
And then he walked straight past me and out, at which point I thought, Oh, he obviously wasn't impressed, you know? Something was not happening for him. What did you do then? It's not even like I was loitering or anything. I left thinking that it was probably just as well anyway that he walked out. And as I was walking back to the car, they arrested me. It was standard entrapment. There was absolutely no one else around apart from the backup cop halfway through the park, who I couldn't see at the time.
I made that slipup, and they got me straight away. No one else observed this? No, and the remarkable thing to me in that situation is, Who's to know what really went on in there? I'm quite sure in their business--however they're trained to do this kind of stuff, and apparently they are--I'm quite sure the actual official training does not involve taking your penis out and getting that involved. But who's to say he did that?
Only him and me. There were only the two of us in there. Why does the word policeman in a situation like that mean more than the word citizen? I thought that in almost any kind of criminal situation there had to be some kind of evidence other than a policeman's word. I'm not saying for a moment that I did the right thing by responding. In the end I responded, and there was a crime committed--however pathetically small I may think the crime was. But I was responding to someone already doing it.
Were you scared when they arrested you? People said I was crying, but I was furious. I said, "This is ridiculous. I know exactly what this is. Had you done that before, gone to that bathroom?
No, but I've been to that park. I have since heard the park referred to as a "reputed cruising area for homosexuals. How many bathrooms in L. Why were you there? What do you mean? Oh, I'm not saying that I didn't go there to cruise, and I have to say, as far as cruising spots go, it's pretty glamorous--a beautiful park, beautiful people, you know. It's not a position I would have normally put myself in. I saw the situation; I thought the guy was cruising, I walked straight into the trap--bang.
And it was immediate; they were right after me. Did you consider denying it? I think to have denied it would've been really stupid. I'm not sorry that it happened. I'm glad that it happened--which at the same time makes me wonder whether I subconsciously allowed it to happen. Well, I was working up to ask you that. Look, I'm 35 now. I don't think you can base your sexuality around anything other than the people you fall in love with.
When I was younger I slept with men and women, and I didn't fall in love at all. I was kind of underdeveloped that way. I would have brief relationships. If you sleep with both sexes and you think you're having relationships, well, it's kinda confusing.
The other thing is, as a celebrity, you're given all kinds of choices you don't want. I went from being a relatively unattractive child in school to becoming famous. I was suddenly given the opportunity to have sex whenever I wanted it. I had way too much sex with way too many people, most of them women but some men. And because I had no emotional understanding of myself, all of it was fairly unsatisfying. Also, I would choose men that were completely unavailable or who were similarly confused sexually.
When I did finally allow myself to get into a relationship where there was real commitment going, I was From then on, I believed I was gay. So falling in love was what ended your conflict? I'm one of those people whose sexuality obviously was ambiguous to people. And I was attractive to young girls, so automatically I became a focus for them. But was that fake? So I had to contend with that. All the time I was trying to figure out why it was that I wasn't making relationships that lasted or why it was I felt so lonely.
I never had a moral problem with being gay. Obviously, as a young man who was adored by millions of young girls, the convenient thing to was to think, Well, hopefully I'm going to find that woman that I'll fall in love with one day. But I wasn't finding her. You never fell in love with a woman? I thought I was. I thought I had a couple of times. I also thought I had with men--and then I realized that none of those things had been love.
I realized that I was just trying to work myself out. You fell in love eight years ago. Why didn't you come out then? Because I'm a very proud person, and I have a very hard time with authority, which has to do with my upbringing.
I had a very strict father. If you tell me I have to do something, I'm going to try not to do it. And what people don't understand in the equation of my relationship with the press is that I've had people talking and writing about my sexuality since I was 19 years old. Andrew Ridgeley and I were immediately the center of a lot of gossip. Although Andrew is completely straight, and I thought I was bisexual at the time.
I'm still not sure why your relationship with the press kept you from coming out. If you think about it, someone who is as motivated as me to become a star is driven by insecurity and the need for recognition and autonomy--so that you can't be controlled, so that you have freedom. And once you get in that position, one of the only entities that tries to control you is the press.
Because you don't have many people to answer to. But the press tries to make you answer to them and to the public all the time. So, I had this thing of, "Fuck you! I'm not going to give you my private life! I'm just trying to work it out myself, thank you very much! I kept trying to see how I could be clever and retain my dignity, not denying my sexuality but not giving them the three words they wanted.
What I've realized in this whole last six months is just how much energy I was giving them. Recently there were loads of pictures all over the papers just because someone spotted me holding hands with Kenny. When I'm out with Kenny, I've very physical with him. When I was with my last boyfriend--the one that really started my gay life, as it were--I didn't hide. We traveled together; we shared bedrooms; we never hid.
I just knew one day the press was going to go for it. I never thought it would happen this way. But I thought, When it happens, it happens, I'm not going to give it to them. I'm not going and doing a special interview.
But what I realize is that I actually allowed people to think I was miserable, closeted, and that was why I was reclusive--as opposed to being sick of the way these people write about me.
I let people think, He feels this is something to hide. I let people think the issue was my sexuality, not my privacy. And the interesting thing is that the moment there was no privacy, I realized that that's all the issue was. Not one part of me has any problem with people knowing I'm gay. So did the press win? They had to go to that extreme. OK, it was humiliating, but I was not a party to it. I didn't go and volunteer it and say, "OK, I'm gonna give you what you want because I'm tired of it.
With your parents too? No, I didn't come out with my mother and father until immediately after my first boyfriend, Anselmo, died. It was horrible, but the day after he died I wrote my parents a letter. It was such an easy letter to write. I felt that when he died he was passing a gift, saying, "I introduced you to yourself, and I opened you up to everyone you loved except your mom and dad.
And you have to deal with that. And everything was fine; it was wonderful. Of course, they were more concerned that I had just lost my partner than that I'd actually finally said what they already knew.
Yeah, because I hadn't had a serious girlfriend for three or four years. When Anselmo died and you came out to your parents, were they worried about your health? No, because I told them that I'd been tested immediately when I found out that he was sick. And my parents know that I wouldn't lie to them. Obviously AIDS would be a concern to any parent that hasn't confirmed that their child is gay, but I think my mom and dad weren't worried about that. They know I'm a very cautious person smiles --apart from the cruising.
How did your father react to your arrest? He was great, actually. He called me the next day and said, "Tell them to fuck off. You are who you are. Since he was the strict authoritarian in your life--and you say that anybody trying to control you reminds you of your experiences with him--was it liberating for you to tell him?
To be honest, the whole period was such a blur because of the grief. I know that by the time my mother died last year, I thought it was quite amazing that we hadn't actually been open with each other until three years before.
There was absolutely no difference in the relationship. It didn't make us closer because we were already very close. I just thought of how awful it would have been for her to have died without knowing, without us actually having talked about it. But my parents were fine about it. I knew they would be. Then why didn't you tell them before? I think I was more worried whether my father would blame my mother, the usual things.
But when I told them, I realized that the only people I was actually hiding from were the press. Did the gay community appear to be annoyed with you for not coming out? Yes, but I find that the people who think that way are not as connected with their families as the people who have a more moderate view of how they want to come out. For instance, there are people for whom it would be ridiculous to pretend they're not gay.
The way they grew up, their mannerisms--I genuinely believe for some people, they never had a choice but to deal with it from a very early age. And it's easy to understand why those people don't understand those people who aren't that cut-and-dry.
I think very often that people who are plainly gay don't understand when people who are not as plainly gay have other issues to contend with. Choices come with problems too? But as soon as I fell in love, it was all clear. All the choices I thought I was weighing were gone. You can only be proud of your sexuality when it's bringing you joy. Until you love someone, it's not necessarily bringing you joy. But without love, all of these issues seem kind of murky. Maybe that's why Boy George--more "plainly gay"?
And what were his choices? He makes it absolutely clear that he could never be anything else other than what he is. He knew I had boyfriends. I refused to rise to the bait with him. I've always turned the other cheek. At the end of the day, his motives are so transparent. He's always said horrible things, but in that article he said that I thought I was too good for the gay community.
I felt like that was really over the top. He did an article directly after I was arrested--interestingly enough, he writes a column for one of the tabloids, which is exactly where I think he belongs. It's an English tabloid calling Daily Mail. It's also pretty right-wing and homophobic. I think it's quite interesting that he writes for them, so I guess he'll go for anyone who pays him. For a gay man, his attitude toward me is identical to the paparazzi's. The first article he wrote was all about how concerned he was for me and that we were sisters under the skin and all this stuff.
But he was just gloating and pretending not to gloat. And then I think he realized that people didn't care. So at that point he did that interview with The Advocate. And when he said that stuff about how I thought I was too good for the community, I just thought, You are now clutching at straws! You are thinking I've been humiliated and people are still not turning against me, so what can you say now to get me into trouble?
Because to say that I'm some kind of snob when it comes to the gay community, trying to turn people against me by making out like I have some sort of prejudice against the gay people--I'm sorry. Am I too good for the gay community? Am I too good for the likes of Boy George? Do you have many gay friends? No, the vast majority of my friends are straight. The people I grew up with are straight, and I spent the first half of my adult life doing all the same things as they did, really.
I think my straight friends were a lot more worried about me than they ought to have been after the arrest because, well, they're straight. I don't have the gay friends who would automatically think, Oh, this has happened to a lot of us. I didn't have that kind of support, which made me feel for the first time in my life that it was difficult that I didn't grow up amongst gay people.
You know Elton [John]. It's not like I don't have any gay friends. But my closest friends are straight--most of whom are still with me from a time before I was famous. It was difficult because I wanted to explain to them the arrest wasn't the big deal they thought it was.
The women especially don't understand it. I think it's difficult for gay women to understand gay men's sexuality, let alone for straight women. Men--gay or straight--understand each other better. Straight men don't find it easy to get quick casual sex with attractive women without paying for it. They normally have to do a lot of groundwork.
They are different hunts, but they are still hunts. I've been there with my mates in clubs when we were younger, cruising for women. I know all the stupid games you have to play.
I also know the lack of game-playing that goes on between gay men. Men have that easy access to meaningless, casual sex, which give them a totally different thrill. I don't think you can explain that to women. Dare I ask you about monogamy?
Remember the video you did for "I Want Your Sex," where you wrote the words "explore monogamy" on a woman's back? That probably seems like a lifetime ago to you. It was around '86 or '87 when I last saw you.
And at the time, I believed in it. I still believe in monogamy as an ideal. I'm not saying I'm perfectly comfortable with my sexuality in terms of my enjoyment of casual sex. And that's coming from someone who would really like to be monogamous--even though I've failed dismally.
I don't know whether I'm capable of it anymore. Well, what do you want? I'm not good at self-deprivation. I think part of that comes from being spoiled, having been a celebrity for so long and actually being able to make most of my fantasies come true.
It's not that I've given up on monogamy, but I've realized what an ideal it is--for most men especially and gay men in particular, where the availability is there and the social pressure is not. Gay men know each other's motivation. And you didn't feel this with women? My relationships with men showed me there is no second-guessing. If a man tries to pretend to you that he doesn't have the same urges as you, he's lying. If a woman tells you that, it could be.
But the basis of a relationship between a man and a woman is the sense of the unknown. You're constantly trying to work out each other's boundaries simply because there are areas you just don't understand. That is the mystery of straight relationships. It's the downside and the upside. Because on one hand, if you're an honest person, you find it very difficult to not say what you feel.
So I find that the openness in gay male relationships is great for me in terms of really making things stronger, getting through the bullshit, having problems but working them out.
There's very little misunderstanding between myself and my boyfriend. How did he feel about the arrest? He wasn't shocked when this happened.
I knew I could call him from the police station and get him to come down and pay my bail. Did it make your relationship stronger? Yeah, it's definitely made us stronger. But the issue of monogamy and casual sex has already come up voluntarily on my part. I wanted to be as open as possible with him. See, I can't bullshit myself. In situations where sometimes men and women have to take a deep breath and cross their fingers--which kind of gets them through it--I can't do that with men.
We know each other too well. I'm sure two women know each other as well. You know the way your sexuality works.... Yes, but I find that the people who think that way are not as connected with their families as the people who have a more moderate view of how they want to come. Seen through the Expressive lens sex appears empowering without necessarily being an exertion of power over another or at the expense of. Why should people see it differently if it's a guy, if it's male-male sex? What happened to Siegel's original article? I don't look at my earlier life or any of my friends and wish that I'd been straight. There's very little misunderstanding between myself and my boyfriend.